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“It’s a very beautiful thing.”

“I think people are born bisexual, and it’s just that our parents and society kind of veer us off into this feeling of  ‘Oh, I can’t.’ They say it’s taboo. It’s ingrained in our heads that it’s bad, when it’s not bad at all. It’s a very beautiful thing.” – Billie Joe Armstrong

I’ve been thinking about this a lot recently. Really only because I randomly remembered this quote. I used to be really…well, not against it but I generally didn’t think it was true. I thought that some people were born gay, some people were born straight and others were born bisexual and that was it. After the documentary that John Barrowmnan did a while ago explaining that people who were gay had extra levels or a certain hormone or whatever (I didn’t pay much attention XD) basically just reaffirmed this – that people were actually just born gay and it was not a choice but they way that they were. Bisexuality is a bit different to me. Note, that this is the way that I see it and may not necessarily be true (try Wikipedia).

At the end of the day, you fall in love with someone’s personality. Just because you find someone attractive, it does not mean you love them, nor are you going to spend the rest of your life with them unless you are extremely vain (but even then your life won’t be fulfilled because you’d probably get bored of them) so, as I just said you fall in love with personalities. The way people think, the hobbies you share, their traits and characteristics etc. Personalities are genderless. I’m coming round to this quote now. I get that people may want someone of the opposite gender if they want kids or whatever but I think that if you opened your mind enough you could fall in love with anyone (or your brain could fall out). Maybe I have too much hope with humanity thinking that everyone could love one another but it’s a nice thought anyway.

Society tells us that its wrong and if you’re religious (I’m not) then the likelihood is that it will be against your beliefs or maybe you just find it gross, religious or not. I think that if you’re in love with them then it’s never gross. It’s only really disgusting if you don’t love them. Then it’s like false love. Making love to someone you don’t love just seems kinda wierd to me but maybe I’m wrong with that. I don’t think having sex with someone the same sex as you is wrong at all as long as you’re doing it for the right reasons, same with straight couples. If you want a typical marriage and a family then I can understand why you’d go for someone the opposite gender than you but I don’t think you should say, “No, I can’t love them. They’re the same gender as me!” and I don’t think I’ll ever understand why/how some people live this way, hating people just for their sexuality – it’s like they just want a reason to fill the world with hatred. It’s so pointless. I get that people want families etc and so would go for people of the opposite gender but they still shouldn’t find same-sex couples offensive or wrong. I’m not saying you have to like everyone either but hating someone for their sexuality is ridiculous.

The fact that people grow up with images of straight couples and happy families around them makes them want that at a young age. At the end of the day, a lot of females want this. End of. They want a family life, probably like the one they grew up in. Not sure why this is, probably to feel needed or something. Like they’re fulfilling their purpose in life by continuing the species. Then again a lot don’t. I really have no desire to have kids. Would adopt if I really felt the need to. I don’t see why more people can’t adopt. At the end of the day what does it matter if you gave birth to them? Surely it means more that you gave a child a loving home and family instead of the one they had before (depending on age). Anyone can have a kid (well, almost) but I think it takes more to adopt one. So it’s not going to have your eyes? WHO CARES?! You gave it a life and a family and that’s all that’s important.

So yeah, my point is that you can fall in love with anyone and just as race, religion, hair colour etc don’t matter, neither does gender. Although I do understand that many people would specifically prefer someone of the opposite gender, some will prefer the same and some will not mind either way. I think that’s its possible for anyone to fall in love with anyone just the same as the fact that someone may prefer someone of a specific height/hair colour/eye color but can fall in love with someone who does not have their preferred height/eye colour/hair colour, the same way as someone might prefer someone male/female but could also fall in love with someone of the opposite gender.

Feel free to give your views below. Apparently the spell check on this does not understand the word “adopt” for some reason o.O and I rather enjoy the full screen mode on this.